You do not ever see it when you are a teenager or young adult. I do not think parents even actually see it. I have slowly begun to notice how much children reflect their parents. Some of my friends have children. Some of them do not. I am starting to be in the age group where some of the children are newborns, some are toddlers, preschoolers, and some are pre-teens. Their minds are being molded everyday by things that they do at home, things their parents do, things their friends do, and experiences that they have.
One of my friends has the two dearest children. Yesterday the regular babysitter was not available and I happen to be having lunch with her. I immediately volunteered to hang out with the kids so that her and her husband could keep their plans. These two girls are phenomenal.
L is six years old. We have met multiple times. I have been to their house for game night. I have dog sat for them. I have even been sailing with them. Every time I am over at the house or with the family somewhere silly L takes some time to warm up to me and then by the end of the night she would prefer I just stay or would like to know when the next time she is going to see me. Last night L was particularly hilarious. She finally came into the living room to accompany E and I, but she hid under her pillows most of the night. While watching the “Princess Bride” every time someone held hands, looked lovingly into each others eyes, or heaven forbid KISSED, L would yell “EWWWWW, that is SO GROSS!” or “why do they need to kiss?” “Are they in LOVE?” All of these exclamations cracked me up. I am pretty sure E just sat on the couch and rolled her eyes are her little sister. I love the spirit and personality of L. She is so joyful and precious with a little bit of attitude.
Now I know it has been almost 20 years since I was 11 years old, but the conversations I had with E last night or anytime I have been with the family just astonish me. She is so well spoken and intelligent. Plus she has the sweet innocent beauty that an 11 year old is suppose to still have. She is such a positive roll model for her little sister and reflects her mother’s and father’s values so well. Her and I sat at the dinner table and discussed her “Revolutionary Day” at school that she had the opportunity to participate in yesterday. She remembered so much of what had happened that day. She told me all about the doctors and other interpreters for the revolutionary war days. She even wanted to know about my day. After dinner we picked out a movie to watch. TV time is a rare occurrence is this family, so they were excited but you could also tell the girls were tired from their day so we were looking for a nice movie. I was glad I could teach E something even though not a useful life skill. Showing her how to search for movies on UVERSE on Demand. The movie was a kid friendly love story, “The Princess Diaries.” The movie was such a good love story and a sweet kid movie. E wanted to make sure I enjoyed it as much as she did. Again what a wonderful girl. The girls were ready to find a game to play, but the parents came home right as the movie was ending. Bedtime.
These girls are such a beautiful reflection of their parents. I am so glad that I get to be a part of their lives. I am interested to watch them grow and see the people they become.
Do parents ever know the impression they make on their children. The impression it leaves on others.
I hope one day the impression my future children leave on people is a beautiful reflection of their family and the values they are raised with.
Oh by the way, happy Chinese New Year!